Why should you use sex toys in your relationship?

Ever since I bought my very first vibrator, I’ve been a fan of sex toys. During a study trip to England, my classmate and I had a break and I decided the best way to spend it was to buy myself a vibrator. I’d already read and seen a lot about them, so my curiosity was piqued, but I kept putting off actually buying and trying one. When I got home later that day, I opened the package, put the batteries in the vibrator, started experimenting with the vibrator and myself, and my mind was blown. After that there was no going back.
Back then, my amazing experience with a vibrator wasn’t something I talked about. I kept my masturbation habits to myself. Even though I had a great toy I loved – it was baby blue – and it gave me pretty intense orgasms, it was my secret for a long time. And the thought of using a sex toy with my partner when our “break” was over was completely out of the question. Now I’m so glad I don’t feel that way anymore and that I’ve dared to express my feelings and ideas.

One of the main reasons my sex life with my current partner is so good is that we use sex toys. Neither of us is shy about introducing new ones into our sex life. We also agree that adding variety with sex toys improves our sexual experiences together. These days I can’t imagine having sex without sex toys.
If you still haven’t used a sex toy with your partner, it’s time to shake things up.

10 good reasons why you should use sex toys in your sex life

1. They take the pressure off you

Sometimes it’s hard to reach orgasm, no matter what your partner does. According to experts, 70 percent of women need some form of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. While clitoral stimulation can be done with fingers or tongue, depending on the position those might not always be options. By bringing in a vibrator for some extra help, you take the pressure off. That can open all kinds of doors to orgasms together with your partner.

2. They take the pressure off your partner

No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, they’ll never really be able to hit that spot the way you do when you’re masturbating. By bringing one sex toy – or two (or more) – into the bedroom, you not only take the pressure off yourself to reach orgasm, you take the pressure off your partner too. Sex will be relaxing and tingly for both of you, just as it should be.

3. You’re more likely to have multiple orgasms

Once you remove the pressure from yourself and your partner, you open the door not only to better orgasms, but even to multiple orgasms. It’s scientifically proven that vibrators boost sexual satisfaction. They just keep going and going and going.

4. Exploring together makes sex hotter

Exploring new territory in your sexual relationship not only opens doors to things you never knew you’d enjoy, but it also creates an even stronger sexual bond. Let’s be honest: you never forget the first person who put handcuffs on you.
There are remote-controlled toys your partner can operate from across the room (or across the world); butt plugs for people who want to try anal; dildos that are perfect while a woman is giving oral sex, and whips, blindfolds, handcuffs, gags and nipple clamps for those who really want to explore something different.

5. They encourage you to try new positions

With all this exploring, you never quite know what kind of twisted positions you’ll end up in. The Kama Sutra may only list 64 positions, but with enough creativity and a sex toy as your guide, you’ll soon find there are far more than that.

6. Mutual masturbation is amazing

We already know masturbation is really good for you, but it’s also super hot to watch each other masturbate. And it’s really educational too.
Masturbating with sex toys in front of your partner doesn’t just show them what you like and how you get yourself off, it’s also fantastic foreplay. Men are especially visual creatures, so if they get to stand behind the curtain and watch you masturbate, it feels like they’ve hit the jackpot. And if you like someone, you’ll probably be just as able to give them pleasure yourself.

7. They can help bring your fantasies to life

If you’ve always wanted to play the strict teacher, there’s a whip for that. Or maybe you fantasise about playing a cop and cuffing your partner to the bed. Dressing up, role-play and using sex toys are the best ways to take fantasies out of your head and experience them in the real world.

8. You’ll flip off every stigma

Even though using sex toys is more common than ever, they still sometimes get a bad rap as being only for “lonely” women, and some men even feel intimidated by the idea of having to “compete” with sex toys. By using toys in the bedroom, you and your partner are basically giving the finger to those outdated myths – and that only makes sex more fun.

9. You’ll finally take your curiosity to bed

So you’ve been happily enjoying your sex toy, but you’ve wondered how much fun it would be to introduce it to your partner. What are you waiting for? Once you’ve tried it, you can stop wondering what it would be like and start having the best sex life yet.

10. Buy them together and try them out

When you buy sex toys together, you can decide which ones suit you best. There’s a huge variety of sex toys available and with a bit of trial and error you’ll find one that works for both of you. Don’t be afraid to talk to the sales staff and ask questions either – they can point you in the right direction. But nowadays it’s also easy to buy sex toys online. Where? Then read the article “The 10 best erotic webshops”.