How can you buy sex toys anonymously?

Bedroom aids, the latest willies or, in other words, adult toys. Whoever you call or visit nearby, chances are you won’t find a decent selection of sex toys in a physical shop. While most brick‑and‑mortar retailers aren’t exactly keen to stock sex toys, online stores are usually happy to offer you a wide range. As long as you know what to buy and where to buy it. But how do you know if the online seller is trustworthy and if your order will be delivered discreetly? Below you can read what to look out for before placing your first online order.

Check for toxic materials in the sex toy you want

The first thing you should pay attention to when buying online is that there are certain types of materials you should avoid when purchasing a toy you plan to use on or in sensitive body parts. Although there are plenty of websites run by legitimate businesses, there isn’t much regulation around which chemicals may or may not be used in adult toys. This means that even reliable sites can sell “novelties” that aren’t great for your body.
In short: try to avoid PVC toys with phthalates. Phthalates can be quite harmful to your health, especially if they’re used over a long period of time. In some cases you can get non‑toxic plastics. Ideal alternatives are silicone, metal or glass toys. These are often a bit more expensive, but they’re worth it in the long run.
When it comes to identifying toys with questionable toxicity, the advice is to pay attention to the smell – if you shop online, make sure you inspect your items as soon as you receive them. PVC toys tend to have and keep a chemical smell. Clear toys are also more likely to be made from unhealthy plastics.

Find safe online stores

Not all online stores are safe and reliable. If you know what you want to buy and you’re sure the sex toy is made of safe, non‑toxic material, you still need to find a trustworthy online shop. Fortunately, the internet has been around long enough that it’s easy to find reputable websites that will deliver your product safely and discreetly.
Below you’ll find websites / online shops specialising in sex toys that, based on online research (including reviews, the website itself and our own experiences), are recommended:

• Zoemmm.com
• Wippertje.com
• Willie.nl
• Takethis.nl
• Sextoys4all.nl
• Patsss.com

This list doesn’t end here. If you’re looking for more options or want to find out whether a website is reliable, it’s a good idea to search online for reviews of a particular online store.

Discretion and anonymous delivery of sex toys

Even the most relaxed and open‑minded person probably doesn’t want a box with “Willie’s Dildo and Vibrator Palace” splashed across it in big letters on their doorstep. Fortunately, most major retailers are aware of this and offer discreet shipping.
Stores take different approaches to this policy. Some are as discreet as possible from start to finish and even present themselves online as beauty or health product retailers. Others may be much more in‑your‑face while you’re browsing, but ship parcels with plain, unremarkable labels.
When you’re shopping on a site, check the “frequently asked questions” or look for the page that explains their shipping and discretion policy.

Once you’ve found their stated policy, it still doesn’t hurt to check customer reviews or feedback. Amazon, for example, is generally quite well‑regarded for its discreet shipping, but according to some review pages, the occasional buttplug does still slip through. While these reviews can help you find shops that don’t always stick to their own rules, they also highlight a simple truth: whatever you do, you’re taking a very small risk. If you want a cast‑iron guarantee that nobody will see your order, you can always set up a P.O. box.