What are the best and most fun sex toys?

My name is Inge, I'm 47 and a huge fan of erotic products, in other words sex toys. Over the course of my life I've tried pretty much everything sexually, and I've discovered that erotic toys have structurally improved my sex life. People (myself included) have gone from secrecy, silence and shame to an open, cool and trendy attitude towards sex toys of all kinds, from dildos to anal beads. There are very few toys or brands I don't know, and because I was asked to share my experiences, I've listed some of my favorite helpers below and added my thoughts on them. Make the most of it ;-)

Dildo 

Although they may seem almost old-fashioned compared to all the vibrating, high-tech, action-packed toys, dildos are still a classic that many women and even more men are fans of. If you're looking for a penetrative feeling that comes closest to a real penis, dildos are the way to go. They come in different shapes, lengths and widths, so keep that in mind when you shop – some women find a slight curve better, because it gives your clit and G-spot more direct action – and consider using them both vaginally and anally. You can figure out the right size here. It may be old-school, but personally I still like the dildo best! 

Butt plug

Consider a butt plug as an introduction to anal play. Anal toys are popular with women, and even though we don't have a prostate or nerves that give a direct orgasm in the anus, they can do a lot for you mentally. If you're a beginner, start with a shower and clean yourself thoroughly in advance, then let your partner stimulate you with his fingers (or tongue, if he's adventurous) before you insert a plug, vibrator or beads. If you like, use latex gloves or a condom over the fingers for hygiene, and anal lube for comfort and glide. Butt plugs may look a bit intimidating – even if they're pastel pink – and if your partner's only knowledge of how to use them comes from porn, the night probably won't end well. Tip: discuss it with your partner beforehand, or try it out solo first. 

Nipple clamps

Clamping them on hurts and takes some perseverance. It can be an incredibly hot sensation. When I take the clamps off it hurts the most, but I love that. Just don't leave them on too long, because they can cut off the blood supply to your nipples! Many clamps come with nice features like adjustable pressure, a vibrating option and a waterproof coating.

Vibrators 

This should be your go-to sex toy for solo play and couple play. I think all women, just like me, should have a variety of vibrators – different shapes, sizes and types of stimulators to match your mood and the sensations you want in that moment. Sometimes I want a big vibrating dildo that I can thrust at my own pace, and sometimes I'm really in the mood to use a vibrating butt plug. It's a myth that using a vibrator regularly overstimulates your clit so much that you won't want a good old-fashioned penis anymore. Sex toys tend to bring women to a predictable orgasm, so go for it and use them! If my partner and I don't have the time or energy for a long sex session, the vibrator really comes in handy.

Handcuffs

Handcuffs are more about the mental and emotional side than the physical sensation. It can be very arousing to talk through the scene you're going to set up, get the consent you need, and then act it out, and this kind of fantasy play is getting more popular thanks to how exposed and normalized it is in the media.
Do be careful though: if you're going for a super-authentic prisoner fantasy with real metal cuffs, they can hurt. I use them a few times a year, and that's because I completely trust my partner. You really have to surrender to it – then you can have a truly unique and unforgettable night.

Clitoris stimulator 

For women who struggle with other sex toys (or even partners), a vibrator that focuses purely on stimulating the most sensitive part of your vulva can be the solution. My partner doesn't always pay enough attention to my clitoris, so the clitoral stimulator is the perfect fix. I talked to him about it and showed him how it works, and since then it's been living on my bedside table.

Anal beads

They differ slightly from a butt plug in that you insert individual beads one by one instead of a smooth, gradually widening plug. Anal beads give a popping sensation with each larger bead that goes in. I use both plugs and beads and I like both, but I think it's even more important to invest in a high-quality set of beads if you choose these. The last thing you want is a cheap set breaking while they're inside you! Oh, and with both, make sure you use plenty of lube.